My wife and I had a new baby in January and I started a new job in April. I work 60 hours a week and my wife is a stay at home mom. Since the birth of our child my wife has made an overnight change. We have a nursery for our son and she refused to let him sleep in there. She breastfeeds him and sleeps in a lazboy in the living room with him next to her in a crib. I basically have to do everything as since she had the baby she will no longer do her own laundry, wash any of her dishes,vacuum, cook, clean up after herself (bathroom, trash, and etc). She will not even prepare meals for herself to eat. If I don’t have frozen food she likes and cokes in the fridge she just won’t eat. She will not cook food. She will no longer leave the home unless I am taking the baby to the doctor with her. I have talked to her about the toll it is taking on me multiple times but she swears that she doesn’t have time to do even one thing.
Essentially, she will take care of the baby and shower once a day and that is it. I have begged her to let me take her to the psychiatrist, obgyn, or any doctor of her choosing. I don’t know what to do. I know that I can’t keep up like this any longer. ON top of my crazy work schedule I commute an hour each way and I have to keep up with our other daughters school, feeding , and upkeep entirely by myself.
I am as close to the edge as I have ever been.
I need help.
We will have been married 10 years this year.