I don’t usually talk to others about this kind of stuff. Bet that gets said a lot. A good many of my romances/relationships have ended due to me getting cheated on. The first girl I had sex with had sex with my best friend while I was out buying condoms. One of the major issues that led to my marriage ending was my wife’s infidelity with a mutual friend. There were a few girls that were involved with me, and ended up hooking up with one of my friends as well. I’ve had girlfriends who were faithful, but there’s always this worry/question of if I’m being lied to and cheated on no matter what. I try to disregard this when there’s no evidence other than my own suspicions as best I can. That’s where I want help. How do I rid myself of this dark whisper that “just like always … you can’t trust her”? I also would like some advice on this in my current romance. I started dating a girl who I met online about a month ago. We chatted on site and then on phone and then met. Hit it off awesomely in person, and I got the kiss. The matter of whether or not either of had any other interests came up, mutually. She told me there was another guy she was interested in, and she was sorry it was taking her so long to decide. I didn’t like the idea of this, and made it known. A little too known, but I soon calmed down and she forgave the dramatic texts. We had 2nd date within a week or so. We ended up hanging out all night, another awesome date. 3rd awesome date we ended up having sex and hanging out all night again. We talk almost everyday and text everyday, and things seem to be going really great. I’m just worried because it hasn’t been said that she decided on me, or that it is exclusive. I know it’s probably not very common for someone to tell their new lover that they were the picked. It’s more an understood thing. I do feel the need to ask if we are exclusive though. Is it obvious enough that I was the one picked and I’m just that dumb? I like this girl a whole lot, and I don’t want my fucked up thinking to be a problem this time.