Ok. I’m not quite sure where to begin this, but I’ll start from the beginning. Bare with me.
I’m currently in a relationship with my late best friends ex and mother of his child. When I say that out loud, I feel like a jerk.
We dated for about 5 months in 2012. During this time I was still friends with the father of her son. I was around more than he was, and helped take care of him whenever we were together. I guess you could say I played father. She broke up with me a month into dating, to try to make things work with her ex, to try and be a family. Of course, I was torn up. It just so happened that it was a day before she was supposed to go to meet my grandparents in California, so i figured something wasn’t right. I was gone for the weekend, came back, and she wanted to get back together. I have the willpower of an alcoholic at a frat party does, so I said yes.Turns out before I left, she had cheated on me with him. They both claim just a kiss, and Im inclined to beleive them because their son was with them at the time. She also told me without me asking, because frankly, I didn’ t want to know. We dated another 4 months, ended up breaking up, quite bitterly I might add. We went without talking for 7 months.
I was still friends with her son’s father in say, October of last year. He was telling me about this new guy she was seeing, about 4 months after us splitting. I was upset he was telling me anything about her, being bitter and all, and ignored it. Then, early November he tells me they broke up. Secretly I was happy, of course. Then on Christmas Day, she texts me. And 3 months later, we’re back together.
Now, sparing all the details because I don’t want to bore anyone with a ridiculously long post about nonsense…I’ll summarize.
When we were originally together, she was great. Talking about how much she loved me, we spent most of our time together, with her son. We would do the cheesy posts on Facebook back and forth, then one day, out of the blue, I get the, “you love me more than I love you’ line and dumped. Then she’s back in my life after a failed relationship. My real question is this. I love this girl with all my heart. She says she loves me too, and I believe her. Is what I’m doing now a good idea? And do you guys think people can change? Am I just an outlet for her happy ending? (she talks about us getting married one day)
Might I note, I’m a sucker for her son. He’s just too damn adorable. I met him from when he was only a month old, to about 6 months, then when I saw him again he was walking, just under a year old. Is her having a kid, and my attachment I have to him, a good thing? Or is it bad?
If you guys need anymore background, feel free to ask. Sorry for this being so vague. Thanks.