Hi, My boyfriend and I have been through A LOT and have been together (with quite a few rough patches) for the past 3 years. We’ve always been long distance, but we love each other. We see each other about 4 times a month on the weekends.
My question stems not from something that has already happened, but from pure insecurity. I just need to know how to stop feeling this way.
I have 5 sisters and they are all attractive, but one in particular is a model. While all of us are more on the average side, she has bright blue eyes, blonde hair, huge boobs, and an amazing body. She has tattoos, while the rest of us do not, and is fun to be around. I love her dearly, but she is just his type.
They have only met a handful of times, but every time they do meet, she is super flirty. He obviously finds her attractive and has said so, innocently. I don’t think he thinks I’m threatened.
But he flirts too. He is just naturally outgoing and would flirt with his grandma, but it really bothers me. His friends like her too.
Lately, we’ve been talking about finally moving in with each other to nip this distance thing in the bud.
I’m worried that A.) he will be around my sister A LOT more and realize they have more in common. I’m very worried he will develop a crush, if not more. I know it sounds petty, but it’s very possible. I trust him and I know he would keep it a secret because he loves me, but that’s my problem. I don’t want to be pitied or the ‘victim’ of a secret crush.
and then my second question,
B.) That we won’t be able to keep it exciting. We’re comfortable with each other, but like I said, we’ve always been long distance. Things will get even more comfortable, we’ll find things about each other we dont like when we DO move in with each other (its inevitable) and we will grow bored.
How do couples keep their relationship from going stale? We are both only 24 so I’m afraid that we will ‘use up’ all of our excitiment and get stale.
Please don’t give me the typical “be happy! dont worry” or “your sister loves you, she wouldnt do that!”
Because I’m not worried that it will happen so much as I’m worried what will be happening in his head. I guess my real question behind both of those questions is, how can I get him to love me MORE and so much that even if he has a crush on my sister, he would never dream of losing me..and so much that our love lasts through thick and thin, boring and exciting?